Thus she doesn’t leave the relationship early and becomes even more bonded and involved with the psychopath, and even more convinced her help is needed, despite escalating troubling behavior on his part. “They’re looking for someone very compassionate who is willing to problem solve, who will be all ‘oh that’s terrible, oh my god, you should get some help,’ because that woman has to get hooked into their storyline and be willing to rescue their ass over and over again.
The woman who says ‘good luck with that’ — he’s not going to be chasing her into a corner.” Women who are codependent tend to be reliable, emotionally mature and take charge.
Then suddenly he gets weirdly distant, controlling, or starts using you. They are people who wreak havoc in their personal relationships because they have little to no empathy or regard for others, have no guilt, do not fear repercussions like others do — and they are skilled at manipulating.
Psychopaths love these types of women because their inherent caring makes them not give up easily, especially after the psychopath begins exhibiting disturbing behavior.
While someone who is not so sensitive may run from a man who starts to show signs of addiction, aggression or lying, a highly empathetic woman will instead think that she can save or help the psychopath.
The pathological lies won’t stop (you learn he uses drugs, has other partners, massive debt, or worse), the perfect man you started dating is long gone, and a total stranger is in his place. It’s easy to blame getting involved with bad guy after bad guy on your town’s horrible dating scene, but if you find that dating people with personality disorders starts to become a pattern, it could be because you are subconsciously attracting them. But there are certain traits that a woman can have that make her more attractive as a target for a psychopath.
And they may not be traits you would have thought of, for they are generally traits that women aspire to — positive traits that unfortunately, in the hands of a psychopath or other antisocial individual, are turned against her.Psychopaths often have low self-discipline in carrying tasks through to completion because they get bored easily.