All in the name of finding love and chemistry — even if just for the night.Understatement of the year: dating has changed a lot since our 20s.I think it's affected how I look at dating as well.It's nice to be asked to go do an activity outside or try a new restaurant, rather than inviting someone over for dinner in your home.Tinder, Bumble, Match and OKCupid haven’t entirely replaced being set up, working together, meeting at the bar or pure blind luck, but they certainly have made sweeping changes in redefining how we meet people and the opportunities we have to do so.This is great, because living that co-parenting life frankly means that time is limited to “get out there” and meet new people. But because we’re looking for a partner to complement not only ourselves, but our existing lifestyle as a parent, the stakes seem a little higher.The pressure to start a family by a certain time is gone, but the pressure to get our love life right this time around can feel higher than ever. Swiping through the seemingly endless profiles of the hopeless and the bitter, poses with tiger cubs (yup, that’s a thing) or buckled into the driver’s seat (or worse, with their ex) can leave you feeling dismayed.It helps when you reach that one needle in the binary haystack, the one whose eye catches yours and whose big personality squeezed into a tiny text box makes you smile or even LOL IRL.
It can be a delicate situation, and things can feel awkward at times.What does dating look like after divorce, in your 30s, and as a parent forging together some semblance of that balance?Usually, it looks like swiping through a series of strangers' selfies, right or left, with hope or hesitation, on a tiny little screen that fits in the palm of your hand. Content Header .feed_item_answer_user .anon_user.logged_out .
None of us intend to find ourselves dating again — mid-30s, this time while figuring out the balance between work and home, self and family — but this is the reality for many of us, because life happens and plans change.
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