“In his eyes, Mao was a horrible figure,” she said, “but he doesn’t know our parents’ generation still thinks he was amiable and respectable.”Many Chinese people in their fifties or sixties still sing “red songs” to pay tribute to Mao, and carry out memorial ceremonies for him annually, so he shouldn’t just identify Mao as a “dictator,” she tried to explain to him. A 21-year-old college student in Beijing, who would only like to be identified as Jean, tells me she dated a guy from the US two years ago.
The relationship lasted for just six months, because Jean found they “couldn’t communicate” because of their “different standpoints.”Jean’s ex-boyfriend was nine years older than her, and a graduate student in international relations at another Beijing university.
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”Ultimately, what it comes down to is “he thinks we’re stupid, while we think he is,” she said.
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But these discussions in part ended the relationship.
Jean said her ex always criticized the Chinese government “with a set of democratic thinking,” and without putting the discussion ”in the historical context.” When talking about the 1937 Nanjing Massacre, in which China claims 300,000 were killed by the Japanese army, for instance, her ex said “the Chinese government is not completely innocent.” He went on to challenge the death toll, even after Jean cited official documents, which annoyed her.
She met him at a party, and developed feelings for him after learning he had carried out missions in Afghanistan. Sally ended the relationship, and started a new one with a Swedish citizen who is ethnically Chinese after she moved back to Shanghai.