Furthermore, in 2018, eight out of 10 women Refuge supported had suffered psychological abuse for an average period of six years.
Read one way, the poem tells the story of a whirlwind romance, but when read in reverse it depicts the terrifying reality of living with a perpetrator of domestic violence.
Sam was three months pregnant when her girlfriend Lynn raped her. Sensing that Lynn wanted sex, Sam decided to tell her that she did not. It is only in the last few months she has felt able to talk about the events of her early twenties.
She pinned me against a doorway and said, ‘I’ll have what I fucking like if I fucking want it.’ She assaulted me.”Sam is in her early thirties.
Refuge is urging anyone who is experiencing abuse today, or any day of the year, to reach out and access support.
Poetry Little girl, Little girl Come out to play For what you hide I do seek You know you want to play with me My love for you is pure, most deep Be a good girl now, I’ll never tell, Will you?
Harvey Barringer revealed something else: If the charity doesn’t find £20,000 in the next few weeks, it could close. Sam recalls another incident, this time from near the end of her time with Lynn, when she tried to seek help.
“I went on the Women’s Refuge website and it’s all about, ‘If he does…
Buzz Feed News spoke to both LGBT survivors of domestic abuse and an organisation trying to help them – amid a backdrop of cuts to funding.
On any given day Refuge supports more than 6,500 survivors, helping them to escape violence and fear and rebuild their lives.
Natasha Saunders, who suffered domestic abuse for eight years at the hands of her ex-husband, says: “I lived with the fear of violence every day for a decade, but the run up to Valentine’s always brought a new pressure and I dreaded the day.
I was subjected to emotional abuse as nothing I did was good enough; he’d tell me there weren’t enough endearments on the Valentine’s Day card, the present wasn’t good enough, I wasn’t smiling enough, and so on.
The day always ended with an argument, followed by more physical, emotional and sexual abuse.
Following a successful Christmas campaign, Refuge has published a reversible poem to emphasise the severity and pervasiveness of domestic violence on Valentine’s Day, and draw attention to the various forms it can take.