My boyfriend and I plan to move in together next summer, but I feel skittish about it.When do we start our own traditions as a family of his and mine, with out the exwife having to be a concern .Well, the two of them have children together so they will always be in each other's lives.
Whomever we choose to be with there will be sacrifices and obstacle to overcome in order to stay together. I too, feel I have the same relationship with my ex-husband.I agree, a civil relationship with your ex IS great for the kids, but there still needs to be some boundaries. It sound like their boundrie are a little different than your's. He needs to make a decision does he want his ex wife back and play house, does he want to be single and still be able cater to his ex wife with no strings attached to anyone or does he want to be with you without an ex wife intruding on your relationship.I guess if you want to stay with this guy, you're going to have to like his ex wife popping in to raid your freezer. He needs to make a decision, don't say oh if I ask him he will leave me.So, you really have to ask yourself if you can handle their situation.
It works for them, but does it work for you and are you willing to put out the effort to make it work for you?He wants his famiy traditions to go on with his ex-wife because of the 13 year. I feel like their still married apart, and fill in the free time.