My fears got in the way My fears around full self-expression caused me to not say what I really meant because I was afraid of hurting his feelings (that’s what I told myself when it was really about me being uncomfortable with expressing myself because of what might happen) and not letting him know how much I liked (or loved) him because I was afraid he didn’t feel the same way about me (what this really meant is I was afraid of rejection).
Because of my fears, I wasn’t able to build and sustain a meaningful connection.
Since we’re only human, we get in our own way at times, me included.
In much of my love life, it was challenging for me to let things happen the way they were meant to.
Questioning, doubting and making assumptions about what these men said and did never gave love a chance to flow.
When I finally learned to be more forthcoming about my concerns, I made less assumptions and experienced things with more ease.
Letting love unfold naturally isn’t about being passive and letting whatever is meant to be, happen.
Instead, like many women, here’s how I approached love.
When I bought into this and the myth of not being complete unless I was with a man, I made men my focus by not fully living my own life.