Dating after divorce and falling in love after divorce, both can be huge and irreparable mistakes.And if you do this, there’s a 99.9% chance you’re going to repeat your past mistakes in life, and date someone very similar to your former husband and or former wife, because you’ve never cleared up the past. Over 10 years ago, I found love with a woman who told me she was divorced, only to find out three months later as I overheard a conversation with her and her attorney on the phone, that she had been separated for five years and the divorce was nowhere to be seen. Sure if you want to go that way, but don’t drag anyone else into your drama until you’ve been divorced or start dating after divorce, and then even after that, which I’ll talk about below, as you need time to yourself.I was, and then I went into dating with a different mindset.I met a guy who I really liked and have been with him since.The subject of your divorce is bound to come up and when it does keep it brief and focus your attention on your date and having a good time in that moment. Finding out if that person has traits we like and whether or not we care for a second date.You can be open and honest with your date without spilling your guts or allowing your last relationship to define your dating relationships. Keep in mind that your date is probably anxious also and wanting to make a good impression.
You’re on a roller coaster ride that you will do a great disservice to anyone you bring along with you. I have no judgment if that’s what you want to do it, but don’t get into a relationship after divorce.Dating after divorce, even before you’re ready, is an absolute distraction for you to figure out what went wrong in your last relationship, what went right, what you need to let go of, what you need to hold onto.